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Articles by Zita Fekete

I Should Have Said NO But I Couldnt. Have I Been Manipulated? - What is Emotional Manipulation and ...

By Zita Fekete    Wednesday, Apr 17, 2013
Conditions: confusion, self-doubt, anxiety, feeling helpless, hopeless, entrapped, low Self-Esteem, feeling in-adequate
How many times have I felt that way and how often have I heard this sigh coming from others before I began to deal with Emotional Manipulation? Weeding out manipulative attempts from straightforward communication or rightful influence is not always an easy ride. Cloud of negative emotions Before I recognize my emotions, I feel my heart pounding and my breathing becomes labored. – Your reaction might be different: lump in the throat, cramp in the stomach, tension in a certain muscle group: listen to your body, and recognize what sign means manipulation danger for you! From there, the ...Read More
Counselling, Psychotherapy

6 Warning Signs of a Manipulative Relationship

By Zita Fekete    Monday, Oct 01, 2012
Conditions: low self-esteem, control issues, confusion, helplessness, hopelessness
At my most recent check up, a pretty nurse prepared me for the visit. Her fine face was decorated by a dark circle encompassing her eye – almost surely caused by the viscous hand of her “loved one”. She was obviously deep in her ruins but was valiantly pretending everything’s all right. I was inclined to give her a warm embrace and tell her how much I am sorry about what had happened to her. I was wondering: how many people got into the situation when their partners who are suppose to give them love, appreciation and support turns against them. Still others might ...Read More
Couples Counseling/Coaching, Psychotherapy

Are We Working for Living, or are We Living for Working?

By Zita Fekete    Tuesday, Mar 20, 2012
Conditions: balance
As a last argument in a debate, my best friend asked her husband: - “Are we living for working or are we working for living?” You can guess; the argument was about how much time they spend with working and how much they have left for the family. How many of us are in the same situation? The economy is quite challenging lately, we want to maintain, even flourish our businesses, no matter if they are currently small or large. We try everything what we can to make it happen; but for what price? The kids graduate before we realize they have grown up from toddlerhood, or we ran out of ...Read More
Counselling, Psychotherapy

The One and Only Does Exist?

By Zita Fekete    Tuesday, Mar 20, 2012
Conditions: relationship
In my opinion, this concept is the product of western civilization which assumes that you simply have to find your “true love”, progress your way through to the wedding ceremony; then you are primed to live “Happily Ever After”. The main emphasis is on the choice: you choose “The Right One”, later in the courtship you might be confronted with complications, but undoubtedly everything will quickly turn into roses at the “I do.” The opposite can be found in other cultures. For example, in India the respective parents arrange marriages sometimes ...Read More
Counselling, Psychotherapy

The Magic of Dreams

By Zita Fekete    Tuesday, Mar 20, 2012
Conditions: uncertainty, doubt, indecision, imbalance
‘…I was by the cosmetics, standing before the mirror and trying to pull off a tiny piece of dead skin from my face. Instead of coming off, it pulled more skin with it. I wanted to get rid of them too, which pulled even more… and a bigger piece, one after another and it just wouldn’t stop. Slowly my naked face stared back at me with the pure muscles exposed without any layer of skin remaining. A cosmetician appeared behind me and nonchalantly stated: You will recover soon...’ I woke up and immediately realized I should have been in shock or at least scared but I ...Read More
Counselling, Psychotherapy