Can you imagine a world without addiction, obesity and disease? Some may wonder why, with or advanced medical systems, highly developed allied health care systems, programs and specialists, that we are unable to improve the relative number of people suffering from these conditions?
In this short article, I will overview what may be the world’s simplest, most powerful cure for addiction, obesity (eating disorders) and disease. I will share why the simple issometimes the most complex. This knowledge will offer you seeds of wisdom, yet, like any seed, the environment for sprouting, growth and maturation ultimately determines form, function and survivability, and ultimate well-being. I offer you the seed of the 1~2~3~4 tree of life. You are free to decide weather or not you are willing to create, or have the environment to grow the tree of freedom from addiction, obesity and disease.
During my 25-year career as a Holistic Health Practitioner, I have come to understand that addiction, obesity and diseases are not conditions that can be “treated”. The very nature of the word “treatment” implies that someone else will render service for you, that they will fix you. If I tell you that I’ll treat you to dinner and a movie, naturally, you will assume that I’m paying for dinner and the movie!
The challenge we all face now in a society that has turned disease into BIG business is that treatment comes at a cost; if the medical professional does indeed deliver a cure, they loose the customer; if the physician delivers a “cure” without the patients full participation as an equal partner in the process, co-dependency emerges. Because the function of an ego is to ensure a distinct individuality (to ensure we do indeed have a unique experience),to the degree that we are cured, the ego seeks to defend against the cure. As I’ve said, the ego is all about independence, which means you can’t heal or complete the development of a healthy ego until you discover your own medicine. Truthfully, the path all egos take to find the right medicine and create an authentic cure is the path of Love.
There Is Only 1 LOVE
There is only 1 Love. That is the Love that created the Universe. Uni-verse means “one song”. Love is levity. Love is to us like the ever-radiating rays of the sun, shining equally in all directions, playing no favorites. All life on Earth exists in the levity of love.
Fear, on the other hand, is like gravity and holds us in place. Fear grips, crystallizes and hardens us.When I work with any client who chooses to overcome addiction, eating disorders or disease, I know that to the degree that they are addicted, they are repeating stuck patterns of behavior that are not producing what they truly want. When people suffer addictions of any type, their use of “self” is stuck between extreme behaviors and psychological and biological dependence.Eating disorders are illness with a biological, mental and emotional component. Disease is the end result of a long process—a breakdown in the ability for the body to effectively compensate for patterns of behavior that reduce the natural flow of life~force; such repeated patterns of behavior are addictions.
In my experience working with addictions of all types, I have discovered that there is a common theme that emerges for people in an attempt to find safe love. For example, when an addict is over-eating or under-eating foods, over or under-exercising, or disrupting their ability to live life without drugs, it is VERY common to recognize that such behaviors offer the addict a sense of unconditional love or freedom. The addict doesn’t have to apologize or harbor any expectations from his drug of choice other than it will satisfy a burning need within—whether it is a cigarette, a bottle of booze,or the compulsion to run one’s self into a high! An addict feels a psychological comfort through his or her drug or behavior of choice andas a consequence feels the safety that this form of love takes. Each such form of love offers levity for a while, but too much exposure will eventually burn you.
When I refer to Love in my 1~2~3~4 Addictions, Obesity and Disease program, I’m referring to a love that is bigger than you! A legacy is your overarching dream, a love truly worth living for—a love worth dying for. People suffering the torment of addiction, eating disorders and diseases have typically not learned how to love themselves because most often, their “love mentors”mixed pain with their love. Soon, because pain threatens our survival, the ego needs to move away from that kind of love to preserve itself. Yet, because love is as vital to our growth and development as water is to plants and animals, we naturally seek ways to create it for ourselves. Without wise guidance and support, it is very easy to find ways of loving ourselves that alter our internal biochemistry such that the love is not only short-lived, it comes with a rebound.
My first intention with all my students, clients and patients is to help them find safe love—a love where attraction does not breed repulsion. This is typically found in doing something bigger than we perceive ourselves to be. To raise healthy children that can care for themselves and contribute to society is a worthy legacy. To create products or a company that offers a needed service to others is a worthy legacy. To write a book or produce a documentary or movie that brings education, awareness or good entertainment to people is a worthy legacy. A legacy doesn’t bite back to the very degree that it is truly a legacy. Your legacy is your Love in action! Your Love is the very levity needed to lift the addict off the bottom, to motivate a change in eating behavior, or to be willing to balance oneself so that the internal environment is resistant to disease.
There Are Only 2 Forces To BALANCE
Love is not a word it is a code. Decoded, Love looks like this:
L = Desire = + polarity = yin = the female force
O = Zero = neutral polarity = without condition; androgynous; an insulator
Ve = Will = negative polarity = yang = the male force.
Here we see that what attracts us to the opposite sex, relatively or perceptually, is the polarity of Love. All the elements in the periodic table have atomic weight and charge, or polarity. Chemistry is based on laws of attraction and repulsion. This is what it means when we have chemistry in relationships; good chemistry draws you in and bad chemistry repulses you. Likewise, all things living are more or less “gendered” in their polarity with a slightly more male or more female orientation. When the charge we carry in relationship to (our ideas of) ourselves, other persons, places and or things is in balance homeostasis; to the degree that it flows, life as movement is experienced. When we manage our relationships with self and other persons, places and things by laws of reciprocity, our desires and the will that manifests produce the momentum to achieve exactly what we want. This result is vibrant health.
In my 1~2~3~4 for overcoming Addictions, Obesity and Disease program, I guide each individual through a careful self-assessment that helps them see clearly where the balance of their female/desire/yin and male/will/yang energies have become destructive relative to what they want—what they Love. Once we identify the root of such imbalances, it is time to make choices.
There Are Only 3 CHOICES
Life can’t exist without relationships, for life itself is the expression of Spirit. Spirit is the movement of life~force created by the polarities of yin and yang. Because Unconditional Love can’t possibly hold onto or identify itself with “any-thing”, Absolute Desire is created. Absolute Desire is Absolute Yin. Absolute Will at the speed of “NOW” gives whatever is created in the womb of Absolute Yin away! What you desire with the greatest level of attraction or commitment, you will manifest to that very degree. This is the origin of the saying, “be careful what you pray for”. The fact of the matter is that our dominant thoughts are our dominant prayers.Your life “IS” the experience of that very process.
Because Spirit itself is the expression of the cyclic relationship of yin becoming yang, and yang becoming yin, we too can only know life as relationships. First and foremost, we have relationships with earth, water, fire (sun or metabolism) and air. Next, we come by way of a parental relationship. All we know or do in life expresses relationships. Our participation in any relationship comes by way of choices. You can choose to eat good food, or garbage food. You can choose to exercise, or not.
The choices we all have as an option are:
1. The Optimal: Optimal choices are always the ones that produce an optimal outcome for everyone involved.
2. The Suboptimal: Suboptimal choices often produce what we want, but create friction in relationships with others. They are still useful choices because they produce life experience, which is necessary if we are to evolve.
3. Indifference: Indifference is essentially choosing to do nothing. Doing nothing is typically the worst choice we can make because it halts evolution. It is like hitting the pause button on your DVD player—everything stops.
When it comes to overcoming addictions, eating disorders and or diseases, it is all about choices. Once we’ve found our Love, our dream, we have levity. With levity, we are willing to balance ourselves so that we can complete our legacy. Our desire to fulfill our legacy is what makes us willing to consider others in relationships. This is how we decide what is, and what is not an optimal choice.
There Are Only 4 DOCTORS!
In the 1~2~3~4 program I divide the major functional categories of the life process into four domains, which I identify as the 4 doctors. They are:
1. Dr. Quiet: Dr. Quiet is the chief physician and oversees the realm of rest, sleep and introspection. Dr. Quiet is the chief anabolic (tissue building) physician and without adequate attention to your needs for Dr. Quiet, you are highly unlikely to be capable of cultivating positive health or well-being.
2. Dr. Diet is second in charge when it comes to the anabolic processes or healing processes that support life. Dr. Diet’s chief message is that you are what you eat. Only when our food optimally supports life can we truly be alive.
3. Dr. Happiness: Dr. Happiness oversees what motivates us and how we will use our energy. Until we have a good relationship with Dr. Happiness, we can’t know what happiness is or what it looks and feels like. When people don’t clearly define what happiness is for themselves, they spend their life looking without knowing what they are looking for. In the 1~2~3~4 program, we get clear on what your core values are so that we can channel our energy into what we want. This is essential to both supporting your legacy, and finding it!
4. Dr. Movement: Spirit is the domain of Dr. Movement. Without Spirit, nothing moves. Since live is movement, it is evident that we must learn to understand how much physical, emotional, mental and spiritual movement serves us, which is delineated when we identify and live by our core values. Your core values state your desires, while Dr. Movement expresses your will.
The 1~2~3~4 Program
My 1-2-3-4 Program for overcoming Addictions, Obesity and Disease can make a difference in your life or the life of your loved one. Join me if you are ready to identify your Love (your Legacy), know what you truly need to balance in your life, and recognize what choices need to be made, the 1~2~3~4 program is for you! Once you have levity, you can overcome your gravity and learning how to take consult with Your 4 Doctors will give you the tools you need for self-empowerment, for freedom from addiction, eating disorders and disease.
You are my Legacy and I truly look forward to sharing my life and my knowledge with you!
Love and Chi,
Paul Chek